We are all in the gutter

Codependency isn’t sexy. It isn’t romantic. It’s built with a fuse and will surely burn out. The healthiest thing you can say to the one you love is, “I would be okay without you, and that’s why I choose to stay.”
- LB, A Few Things About Love (via dangervvank)

(via tyleroakley)

All things truly wicked start from innocence.
- Ernest Hemingway

This year taught me that my loneliness has more to do with myself than anyone else. The loneliest I will ever be is when I do not have the strength to love myself.
- Marianna Paige (via mariannapaige)

(via shandenn)

It’s important to be a good and giving person, but it’s also important to think about yourself. There has to be a balance; you can’t let others walk all over you, but you can’t be inconsiderate or selfish. It’s an intricate mix that, I think, takes lots of practice to perfect. But, in the end, it all boils down to this: stop making promises you don’t intend to keep.

One day, I realized he might not exist. My soulmate, I mean.

I realized there might not be someone walking around this earth just waiting to meet me. Someone with a private world just as intricate as mine that, one day, I would get to share and be a part of and know.

And I realized I was keeping a vacant spot in my heart for this person who might not exist. That I wasn’t allowing myself to be whole because how could I be whole with my other half missing?

It was an excuse, of course. A simple view of life that would exempt me from having to put in the effort of filling myself up with the love I was waiting for someone else to supply.

The reality is this: Life is a churning, chaotic thing with no guarantees, and in the throws of the tumbling you might run into people to hold on to for a while. Sometimes for a night, sometimes for life.

And holding on to someone is a worthy thing. A wonderful thing. Something to look forward to and appreciate and embrace with your whole heart.

But the love you get from holding on to someone will never be as reliable as the love you can give yourself. Right here. Right now.

So here’s my advice. Be open to love, but don’t be empty for it.

- Open, Not Empty - John Paul Brammer  (via ajarfullofdreams)

(Source: johnpaulbrammer, via avvhiteblankpage)

and I’m over it,
I’m over it,
I promise I’m over it.
But it still hurts sometimes.
- Laura Elizabeth Ross (via unabashinglyme)

(Source: lauraelizabethross, via shandenn)

My father had taught me to be nice first, because you can always be mean later, but once you’ve been mean to someone, they won’t believe the nice anymore. So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy them.
- Laurell K. Hamilton, A Stroke of Midnight (via rabbitinthemoon)

(via kmf1994)

And all I loved, I loved alone.
- Edgar Allan Poe